If food were a relationship


This is something I read a while back, I’ve adapted it to link in with food optimising.

It’s really thought provoking!!!

Ask yourself the following. :-

If food were a romantic relationship what kind of relationship would you be in?

Would your family and friends approve?

Is it a loving, caring, respectful one?

Or one fuelled by greed and short term pleasure, is it intense, controlling, abusive, do you feel imprisoned?

Is it boring or monotonous?

Or strict and regimented during the week, followed by naughty weekends with indulgent flings?? Are you having an affair or cheating on yourself?


You’re probably giggling right now, or you might be struck by a light bulb moment. The most important relationship is the one with you. If your relationship with food/drink isn’t getting you to where you want to be at the moment, have a think how you can make it better. How can you get it back to being loving and respecting it? Loving and respecting yourself by fuelling it with healthy filling foods? What’s getting in your way and what would you like to change?


We all want happy loving relationships in our life…… Don’t we?

Happy Fopping xxx



Weight gain spectrum of emotions 

Ok so I’ve braved the scales today after the wedding/build up to the wedding and the events after and it’s a 4lb gain!!!! You go through different emotions when you have a gain don’t you, well I do anyway!!! 

1. Heart sinks and time stands stand still while you process it, really!?! How did that happen?!? I haven’t been that bad?!? I’ve made some good choices!?! 

2. Anger as you don’t feel it’s deserved. Also you’re angry at yourself!! 

3. Acceptance. You start to remember all the alcohol you drank, that take away you’d forgotten about, the wedding cake you had for breakfast and the pub meal you only ate half of, but then actually continued to pick at, etc etc……

4. Disappointment. Why did I do that to myself, why didn’t I stop myself and remind myself my weight loss is more important to me.

5. Forgiveness. There’s no point beating myself now, it’s done, it’s gone, I can only move forward.

6. Determination. Right scales, I’ll bloody show you!!!! That gain will not be staying and I will get back on track with a vengeance!!! You start to plan all the speed food and body magic you’re going to do. It’s one bad week, it’s doesn’t define you!! You’ll come back fighting!! 

This is why even though it might not always be pretty, you really should weigh every single week and stay to class. If I hadn’t of got on the scales today, I would of carried on letting little things creep in, I would of carried on fooling myself that I was being pretty good! I’ve got my honeymoon next week, so it’s full sw force ahead again!!! Back to basics and keeping things simple. Drinking lots of fluids and making sure I’m not over eating/over synning. 

People say to me all the time, “just have a day off!”, “why do you stick to it religiously all the time!?!”. To me it’s just not worth it, how I feel when I gain isn’t worth it. I can cook delicious food the sw way, I don’t need to do this to myself. I’m the sort of girl that just looks at a piece of cake and puts on a lb!!! I don’t get these girls on instagram that constantly share pics of cheat meals and still lose loads of weight!! I’ve never got away with anything! I actually prefer healthy food any way. My skins been rubbish and I feel tired all the time! You need to do what works for you and what you can sustain. For me that’s food optimising 100% with food and then sometimes being a bit more flexible one weekend day with a few drinks. Then lots of body magic 🙂 

Let’s smash this week!!!!! 

Happy Fopping xxx 


Does your weight hold you back? 

Does you weight hold you back?!? 

Mine definitely held me back for years!!! When I was at school/uni I always compared myself to others and felt like the fat friend. I couldn’t wear the short school skirts like my mates or the little shorts. I hated the summer as it meant summer dresses at school!! Getting ready for a night out would be a disaster!!! I always wore black or something long to cover my bum!! I hated going on holiday as it involved a swim suit and doing the sarong dash to the pool! I nearly quit my degree as I felt so rubbish at some stages in my first year. It also kept me from moving on from a previous dodgy relationship, the thought of whipping my clothes off with someone else filled me with dread!!!!!!!!! Lights off please!!!! 

After I lost my weight I felt free!! It wasn’t controlling my thoughts 24/7 anymore, it wasn’t holding me back from my dream job, dream man and dream life. I’m still not 100% confident or happy but who is?!? But I’m a million times better than I used to be. There’s no way I’d be a manager and consultant for slimming world, or getting married or even doing this blog if I didn’t decide to change. 

I hear a lot of stories from friends, family, members past and present about how they live half a life because of their weight. They might struggle to keep up with their children as they get out of breath, they may refuse to go swimming with them as they’re too embarrassed, they might shy away from going out due to feeling uncomfortable or having nothing to wear, some even delay weddings or have the day ruined, or cancel birthdays or anniversaries! Others allow their co workers or bosses to treat them badly as they haven’t got the confidence to stand up to them, some won’t go for the job they’ve always wanted as they’re scared to be judged in the interviews. One lady I saw today was walking with a frame, she was seriously seriously struggling and I felt so sad, I wonder if she knows there’s an amazing plan out there with tons of support. I’d love to help her to change her life. 

Isn’t this all so sad 😦 especially when we can do something about it!

Why not make a list of all the things you want to do when you hit target, start ticking them off as you go through your weight loss journey? Stop letting your own weight hold you back from truly finding real happiness. Some people are happy whatever they weigh and that’s fantastic, I admire them. I wasn’t one of those people. If you feel your weight is meaning you’re living half the life you could, decide now to change it!
Trust me you can do it and it’s 100% worth it!!!! 
Happy Fopping xxx 




Eeeeeekkkkkk tweaks

With Halloween coming up it seems the perfect time to write this blog. Very if ten what you think is a great could be a trick!!

Tweaks rarely come up in my group, as I’m pretty hot on explaining them. However due to recent fb groups sharing incorrect information it has cropped up and it could upset a few. I thought it was best to dispel the myths and misconceptions, to protect my members and others too.

What is a tweak? It’s a creative way of using what would usually be a free food. For example a cake out of cous cous. So why aren’t these free?? They use free foods? It’s pretty simple really. It makes me sad when people who try and point out tweaks are called the tweak police lol. Whats the role of a policeman? To protect people and ensure they don’t get hurt right. So why is this a bad thing? If a policeman said don’t go down that alley way, there’s a mad man down there and you could get hurt, would you think, oh well I’ll risk it and happily skip on lol? No. Now if people choose to tweak, even knowing the facts, that’s entirely their choice. If you lose weight then I wouldn’t get too hung up on it. However if your losses have slowed down or stopped altogether, this could be why. Here’s Slimming Worlds official reply from the website:-


You might be disappointed to hear that they’re not. Because changing the use of a food can make it easier to over-eat, to protect your weight loss they become Synned.

When foods like pasta, rice and grains are used in their original form they’re low in energy density (calories), bulky, appetite-satisfying foods. Pasta, couscous and rice are usually the main ingredient in a meal packed with other Free Foods – giving it sufficient bulk to be satisfying as a meal in itself. However, when ground down, used as flour (like in couscous cake), seasoned crisps (like Doritos) or puréed (like smoothies) they’re often used as additions to a main meal… and on top of your day’s Syns. It is a very effective way of adding a lot of extra calories in a non-bulky way, and as such would then be counted as Syns.

Our advice, as always, is to use Free Foods and Healthy Extras to create satisfying, filling meals – reaching for speedy Superfree fruit and veg first in between meals. As a safety net, Free Food lifesavers are the best option to fill us up on those extra-hungry days.

If you sit and think about it, do naturally slim people make cakes from cous cous or crisps out of lasagne sheets ha ha. They’d think we were mad! Years and years ago I used to make both of these and to be honest if rather syn the real thing.

Common Tweaks
Couscous as a sweet dessert/porridge replacement
Couscous made up in this way with water, yogurt and sweetener would be considered a tweak. Couscous is included in our Free Food list so it can be enjoyed as part of a meal, to add even more filling power, Used in that way you’re unlikely to eat couscous in large quantities. However if we eat couscous as a sweet dessert we are not eating the ingredient as it was intended to be used and we should count the Syns to protect our weight loss.

Rice puddings made up with diet drinks
Using diet soda (or any other Free liquid – including water) to make up pudding rice is a tweak as it makes bulky Free rice – intended to be eaten as part of a satisfying, Free Food-packed meal – very easy to overeat between and after meals.

Lasagne sheets to make spring rolls
There have been some queries relating to using par-boiled (softened) lasagne sheets filled with Free Foods (bean sprouts/shredded carrots/Chinese five spice) then baked to make spring rolls. In principle this is no different to cannelloni. If eaten as part of a filling meal this is fine. If we are making trays of lasagne/spring rolls and eating them in addition to meals, it would be something to look at if their weight losses start to slow.

Adding rice when blending soup
Blended rice has a Syn value as it loses its filling power.

Blending Mullerlight yogurt with milk or water to make a drink
This is a tweak. Yogurts aren’t intended to be used this way and ‘diluting’ them reduces both the time it takes to eat them (ie they become east to overeat) and their satisfying power. If we do want to make shakes/drinks with yogurts, we need to syn them to count the equivalent Syn value of a branded yogurt drink to protect our weight loss.

Why is soup Free but vegetable juice isn’t?
When fruit is enjoyed in its original form it is a bulky, satiating food that’s low in energy density. However, when puréed, juiced or made into smoothies, it is a very effective way of adding a lot of extra calories in a non-bulky way. For example, consider the time it takes to eat six apples – and how full you’d feel afterwards (if you managed to eat them all!). Then the time it takes to drink the equivalent apple juice… it’s gone in a gulp! Furthermore, juice doesn’t sit in your stomach for very long, so does not fill you up. Also, much of the fiber that was in the apples tends not to end up in the juice.

Eating in this way simply allows us to revert to a similar style of eating to the one that helped us gain weight in the first place – a relatively large amount of calories in a non-filling form. The less you have to chew food, the easier it is to eat more of it, because you’re missing out one of the first stages of feeling full and satisfied – chewing.

The exception to the rule is vegetables when used to make soup – which maintains its bulky, filling qualities and is used as a meal.

Other tweaks include:
Smash and cottage cheese scones
Chickpea nuts
Lasagne crisps
Twiglets made from pasta

Tweak or not a tweak?

Pancakes made with couscous – tweak because it’s couscous as a flour substitute.

Doughnut using Healthy Extra ‘b’ choice wholemeal roll, low calorie jam and sprinkled with sweetener – not a tweak because it is a Healthy Extra ‘b’ choice.

Egg custard made with 3 eggs, 3 tbsp Splenda and one banana and custard Mullerlight – not a tweak because we use eggs in this way in several of our recipes.

Mushypea curry – not a tweak because it remains filling and satisfying. The same for potato cakes as long as these are made with fresh potatoes and not Smash.

Macaroni pudding – if made up with milk (as intended) from Healthy Extra allowance then this is fine. If made with any other free liquid (including water and sweetener) this needs to be counted as Syns because it’s easy to overeat.

Jelly sweets – not a tweak because tweaks can only be Free Food, not Synned food. The fact they there are Syns, limits the amount you can eat.

Mushy pea gravy – not a tweak because it would be very difficult to overeat gravy.

So there you have it folks. Happy Fopping xx




The secret to weight loss

We’re always looking for the secret to weight loss, the truth is, there isn’t one!! Or is there?!? We used to say Slimming World was the best kept secret, but more and more people know now it’s the best weight loss method that there is!! We are the no.1 slimming organisation in the uk and we are just going from strength to strength!

I do however have a secret to share with you, if it’s something you’ve not heard of. The book called The Secret. This book could seriously change your life and how you look and feel about yourself!!

I’ve had this book for three years after buying it from amazon and just never got around to reading it!! I finally read it while in Barcelona recently and I couldn’t put it down!!! I’ve always been passionate in my group about having a positive mental attitude. I’ve always believed in the famous Henry Ford quote that whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right! This book backs up this quote beautifully!!

So what’s the secret?!?! I’m going to use lots of quotes from the book to help explain it. Stay with me and keep an open mind 😉

“Be grateful for what you have now. As you begin to think about all the things in your life you are grateful for, you will be amazed at the never ending thoughts that come back to you of more things to be grateful for. You have to make a start, and then the law of attraction will receive those grateful thoughts and give you more just like them.”
― Rhonda Byrne, The Secret

You might be thinking, er ok this all sounds a bit weird but read on…….

Your thoughts become things! I totally agree with this, The Secret is all about your mindset. It’s about remembering that your thoughts are the primary cause of everything. I love this quote,

“You are the masterpiece of your own life. You are the Michelangelo
of your own life. The David you are sculpturing is you”

Outside influences can be just excuses that we put in our own way. We have the power to change us if we want it bad enough and think positively.

Think about when you have really happy days. If you are feeling good, its usually because you are thinking good thoughts. Your thoughts can attract everything that you require. If it’s money you need you will attract it. If it’s people you need you’ll attract it. You’ve got to pay attention to what you’re attracted to, because as you hold images of what you want, you’re going to be attracted to things and they’re going to be attracted to you. But it literally moves into physical reality with and through you. And it does that by law. The law of attraction.

“Every thought of yours is a real thing – a force. It will have a cause and effect.”

Rhonda Byrne, The author of The Secret makes a fabulous point here,

“It is impossible to bring more into your life if you are feeling ungrateful about what you have. Why? Because the thoughts and feelings you emit as you feel ungrateful are all negative emotions. ”

Sound familiar? Does one bad day turn in to another? We need to switch our thoughts and our mind sets!!

There’s an entire chapter in this book dedicated to weight loss. It was like she was talking to me!! One statement that really stood out is the fact that food isn’t what causes weight gain, it’s our thoughts surrounding food and being overweight that causes it!

Rhonda believes the following,

“If you’re not feeling good and you want to change the way you feel, or if you want to lift good feelings higher, then take a minute or two and go through a mental list of everything you love and adore. You can do it while getting dressed in the morning, walking, driving or traveling anywhere.”

You may of seen all the #100 happy days on social media, or you might of heard of the three blessings?? This is basically what Rhonda is saying. Be grateful, think happy thoughts and you will attract more happy things.

So how can we re train what label we’ve given our bodies?? I always moan about my thighs!!!! Have they ever really changed, no!! So now I’m thankful for other parts of my body and I’m trying really hard to not label myself and let’s see if I can slim these bad boys down. If I keep saying I’m always going to have chunky thighs, I will!!

“Whatever you believe about your body, your cells believe too. They don’t question anything you think, feel, or believe. In fact, they hear every thought, feeling, and belief you have.”

When I think about my last holiday this reinforces the book entirely. The last two holidays I’ve been so ill with vertigo after the flight. This time I decided to visualise being fine, getting on and off the plane and having an amazing holiday. I kept saying I’m going to be fine and it’s going to be amazing. Guess what, I was and the holiday was wonderful. So is there something in this?!? I’ve struggled with sleeping for two years too. I now imagine before I go to bed having a fab nights sleep, I’m grateful for it and I even say to my boyfriend how amazing my sleep is going to be lol. You might think I’ve gone mad but it flipping works!!!!! I’ve slept better than I have been in years!!!

Do you always focus on what you don’t want as opposed to what you do? Ie, I don’t want to be overweight any more. This is a negative statement and can hold you back. Do you ever think, well I’ve failed before, I probably will again!! Noooooooooooo you’re just limiting your own beliefs. Have you ever been labelled by doctors, friends, or even family? Have they told you you’ll never lose weight, or will always find it hard?!?! Er be quiet please, we don’t need your negative thoughts!! If you except these thoughts, whether they are from others or yourself it will become your reality. Let go of limiting thoughts, imagine throwing them all in a pile and setting fire to them! Gone forever!! Fling those negative knickers off and whack those positive pants on!!!

Lots of famous sportsmen and women, singers, actors use the visualisation technique. The Secret also recommends this method. They advise you to visualise and get a really clear picture of the weight you want to be and how you want to look. Believe you can do it, focus on that goal and imagine how it’s going to feel when you’ve hit it. But most importantly feel happy now. Losing weight doesn’t automatically make you happy.

So remember to remember, banish those thoughts and be happy.

Now you know the secret, the rest is down to you.

Right then folks I’m now off to do my cardio and go shopping!!! Have a wonderful day.

Happy Fopping xx




What’s your happy weight?!

Good evening, this is something I’ve thought a lot about recently. What is my happy weight? What’s your happy weight?!? What is a happy weight?!? Confusing right!!

When I got to target I felt amazing!!!! The best I’d ever felt. I weighed 9 stone 7lbs and at 5ft 6 I was really happy with that. I’d lost 3 stone in 3 months, I didn’t crash diet, I didn’t use milk shakes, I did it in a healthy happy way. A fabulous plan, slimming world and at the end exercise too. I felt unstoppable. I got a new job from it, I ended an unhappy relationship and met someone new. I got a new house. I was super happy. This lasted 7 years, I maintained my happy weight all that time as I was happy. So I was sorted right? Wrong. Things change.

After a difficult break up I lost weight without trying and went down to 9.1lbs, for my height and shape I looked really slim. Most people thought too slim. I was a small size 8. I’d always thought this would feel amazing. Don’t get me wrong I felt flipping good being so slim, but I’d got there because I was unhappy. A number on the scales can’t change how you feel as a person. A lot of girls find the heartbreak diet kicks in after a break up and on the outside you may look and feel fantastic, but on the inside it’s a whole different story. A number or dress size won’t solve your problems. You might think controlling your weight and looking hot will make you feel better, but it doesn’t. You might look at super skinny people now on TV and think OMG I’d love to be them. I’m not going to lie, I still do this!! A lot of the time though they are super skinny now as they are desperately unhappy. What you prefer? To be a size 6 and miserable or a happy healthy weight and love life?!? No brainer really. So when you next wish you looked super skinny, if you do, consider that they may rather be you.

When you meet someone the opposite can then happen, you go on dates, have cozy nights in with a take away, go for drinks, weekends away, they may cook for you non sw food, you tend to gain weight, you settle down and become happy and content, you don’t feel as motivated to lose weight as you’re happy. Ha ha bonus, you might think, well sod it, Ive bagged a man now so It doesn’t matter if I gain weight!! But then gaining weight can make you unhappy!! Can’t win. Or can we?!?

What’s the answer? Find your happy weight, figure out what that means to you. Yes I liked being 9 stone 2lbs, but I wasn’t eating much and I wasn’t in a good place. I really don’t think I could get to that weight again and stay happy, as I love food and going out. I’m the happiest now I think I’ve ever been, but I’m also heavier!

I’m not at target right now, I do really want to get back there though. It’s about 7lbs, but that’s 7lbs makes a big difference to how I feel in my clothes and I would be happier at that weight. So I’m on the case!! I know I can get there as I’ve done it before. It’s about finding a balance.

You’ll know when you get there as you’ll feel happy on the inside and on the outside. You won’t obsess about food, scales, what you look like, having the lights turned off if you’re naked lol, doing the wiggle dance to get in your jeans or having a total melt down when getting ready as nothing fits. We’ve all been there.

Will losing weight automatically make you happy? No, that’s the truth. It will help but it won’t be the ultimate reason. Figure out what you love, what you want to do, be grateful for what you’ve got and if you aren’t where you want to be in life right now, change it. Put steps in place and don’t hold yourself back. Believe in yourself, life’s too short to be unhappy. Ok so I’m not a skinny size 8 but I’ve got a fantastic boyfriend who I adore, amazing family and friends, a job I love more than I can put in to words with incredible members and team members, a lovely house, a nice car and nice clothes. I know I can get back to target and I’ll do it in a happy healthy way 🙂

I feel better getting that out ha ha. Enjoy your evening folks. Happy Fopping xx





Limiting beliefs

This is inspired by a lovely call with one of my team today 🙂

Do you ever hear about other peoples success stories, or hear about big losses and think, that’s amazing but I can’t do that! Guess what, you can!!! You’ve just told yourself you can’t. The sad thing is now you believe it too and you let it define you.

Have a read of these stories below :-

The Elephant, the Flea and the Piranha can tell us three stories about limiting beliefs. Unfortunately for them, they are unable to change their limiting beliefs, whereas we humans have the power to do so. As long as we can identify what our limiting beliefs are, we can reprogram our minds to change our limiting beliefs and get the things that we want in life.

The Elephant
Visualise the fully grown adult elephant in the circus. When he is not performing he is chained to a stake in the ground. A stake that would be hard for you to pull out but for this giant animal it should be easily pulled out and the elephant would be free. So why does he not break free?
Well, that elephant has been in captivity his whole life. As a baby elephant the shackle around his ankle would have been much smaller but the chain and the stake would have been the same size as they are now. As a baby elephant he would have tried to break free but the stake was too big then and too hard to pull out. He would have tried and tried, almost to the point where he would hurt himself. Eventually, after many failed attempts, he would give up and never try again…

The Flea
Fleas can jump between 8 and 10 inches high, easily. They are the best jumpers in the insect kingdom, but did you know they can be trained to be the worst?
If a flea is placed in a jar of say only 6 inches high, the flea will continue jumping as high as it always did. Unfortunately every time it does so it will bang it’s head. You see, the flea gives his all because it can. Soon (many sore heads later) the flea will reduce how high it jumps so at to stop hurting it’s head.
At this stage the jar can be removed and the flea will never ever jump above the height it was jumping in the jar…

The Piranha
Just like the flea the piranha can be trained. The piranha can be placed in a large tank and separated from their food by a glass divider. The piranha will bang their head repeatedly off the glass divider while trying to get to its food. It will eventually realise that it can’t get to it’s food and will stop trying.
Even when the glass divider has been removed, the piranha will not try
Lesson learned

Beliefs are pre-conceived ideas that we allow to filter through our body. We allow our beliefs to determine our reality. The brain’s belief system is called Reticular Activating System (RAS). It is formed by our religions, teachers, families and peers. By the time we are 5 years of age it is so well developed that who and what we will become has already been determined.

Unlike the elephant, the flea and the piranha we as humans have the ability to change our limiting beliefs. It’s not as easy as it sounds, afterall, we are trying to change things that we have learned when we were young children. It is possible though… The best way is staying to image therapy. Getting help and support to find new grooves, getting praise to believe in yourself and leave feeling inspired.

For years it was thought the earth was flat….
The 4 minute mile was thought impossible…
Man can’t fly…
Space travel is impossible…

Go for it guys!!! Happy Fopping xxx





Reasons v’s Excuses

I wanted to write a blog today on Reasons v’s Excuses.

I’d never use the word excuse in my group, I’m just not very comfortable with the word, I’m not 100% sure why? I think it’s because it sounds quite judgemental. Only you know if you’re using something as an excuse or a genuine reason to stop you from doing something.

I was shattered yesterday, so I used it as an excuse not to go to the gym, I’m sure if I really wanted to I could of found some energy to get up and go. I know I’d of felt better after too. My alarm went off this morning and I lied in bed trying to think of another excuse not to go, too tired, too busy, not got an outfit ready, I could go on. But I snapped myself out of it and went. I did spin and pump and I’m so glad I did. We always have such a laugh and you feel great after. If I hadn’t of gone I know I would of felt bad.

If I think back to before I found slimming world I could of wrote a book on excuses!! I made tons of them as to why I couldn’t lose weight.

I can’t eat healthy because…………..
I can’t cook
It’s boring food
I don’t like it
It would be rude not to eat it
I’ve been taken out for dinner so I have to eat it
They’ve made me this cake so I have to have it
I’m too tired to cook
I’m too busy to cook
I’m too hungover lol
I haven’t got time to shop properly
I don’t want to be deprived
I want to eat what everyone else eats
It’s too expensive…

You get the idea!!!

At the time I really believed these were real true reasons why I wouldn’t succeed at losing weight. I’ve proved now though that they were in fact excuses!

I’ve learnt to cook and it’s actually pretty easy! There’s millions of recipe books and fab quick easy ideas on the website. There’s also low syn convenience foods that you can have too. You can see from my food photos that healthy food isn’t boring at all!!! It can be if you make it boring, but there really isn’t any need to. I’ve discovered foods I didn’t even think I liked! If you’re tired, no worries, a quick stir fry, an omelette or bulk cook so you can whip something out of the freezer. Or use a slow cooker, I love these!! Come home and your dinner is ready!! If I timed myself getting a take away, going from my house to the take away, choose my order, wait for it to be cooked, pay for it and get home to serve it, I could of easily knocked up a sw friendly meal in that time! Guess what else, mine would be cheaper too!! If it just has to be a take away, no problem!! There’s a lot of low syn options to go for, we don’t have to go for a high syn version just because we’re tired do we?!? Healthy food actually gives us more energy, eat rubbish and I feel rubbish!! As for expensive, it can be yes, but it can also be cheap if you shop smart. Aldi is amazing for cheap superfree foods, there’s tinned foods, frozen and loads of fab markets. I was a student when I lost my weight, I made loads of cheap pasta dishes, went for all the special offers and bought non branded products. So all those so called reasons I used weren’t really reasons were they?!?

I did break my foot once and couldn’t go to the gym, that’s a true reason!! Thinking about it now though I could of done arm weights ha ha!!

Let’s look a bit further in to this.

What are Reasons and Excuses?
“Reasons are rational explanations given for thinking in a particular way or for doing a particular activity. They are basically logical justifications in accordance with some motive. While excuses are an attempt to convince oneself or others about the difficulties involved when a promise is not kept or there is lack of progress, or simply, when something is not done. Excuses are often disguised as reasons as the sayings go, ” An excuse is a lie disguised as a reason” “An excuse is a skin of a reason stuffed with a lie”.

Pretty heavy stuff!! The word lie, eeeeekkkk, that’s how it makes me feel, but deep down, if I’m honest with myself, I was actually lying to myself. Why did I do that?!? The only person I was hurting was myself. All those unhappy years wasted. I lost my excuses and found my results. If you really really want something nothing can stand in your way.

Have you ever made an excuse to skip a meeting at work? A date with a guy? An event with a friend?!? You need to give an excuse or a reason only in two types of situations- one, where you were supposed to do something but ended up with something else and two, where you were not able to do the required activity at all and need some explanation to get you out of the embarrassment, or to make others see why it wasn’t your fault and you should not be blamed for it.

So how can we avoid harming ourselves by making excuses?!? Believe in yourself. I had to tell myself I could lose weight and I had to believe it. No one or nothing was stopping me. If I was taken out for dinner, I’d politely request a healthy option. If someone was thoughtful enough to buy me a cake or some chocolate, I’d politely thank them and take it home for someone else to eat. This isn’t being rude, this is being true to yourself and your goals. If people care and love you, they honestly won’t mind! People soon respected my goals as I shared they were important to me, so they’d buy me fruit, smellies or a little trinket. These meant so much more to me. Family dinners at other peoples houses can be a challenge, full fat roasted potatoes, cake and custard for dessert, did I have to have it? Nope! They loved me and knew my weight loss was important to me so they’d do me sw roast potatoes and fruit and use sugar free jelly and a muller light 🙂 Be confident. Be assertive in a nice warm way. Give it your best.

Sometimes things might go wrong. No one is perfect, especially me! We all slip up sometimes. We have our syns and tons of amazing free foods, superfree and healthy extras, but sometimes we lose our way. If this happens, don’t worry about it!!! Don’t do the guilt thing and beat yourself up, it won’t help you. Just draw a line under it and move on. Take a positive and learn from it, that way if it happens again you’ll be better prepared.

Do you know though the scary thing about lying to yourself or using excuses? We can convince ourselves they are true and we let them define us!! I can’t lose weight I’m useless, I can’t run I’m too unfit, I can’t cook I’m terrible at it….. Don’t limit yourselves!! You can re invent yourself every single day if you want to.

Most of us can confuse a reason with an excuse. It’s easily done and if you do this you won’t be alone, I’ve done it loads of times!!! Next time you think of a reason to not go and exercise and do some body magic or a reason why you can’t food optimise, think twice about whether it is really a valid reason or just an excuse, only you can decide.

Happy Fopping guys xxxx







New chapter, make the rest of your life the best of your life

***Warning this post contains lots of PDA’S which is very out of character for me!!!

So I’ve moved!!!!! I’m in our new house and I love love love it!!!! It’s crazy how life has so many twists and turns isn’t it!! My bf and I met up for our first date just over ten months ago and we haven’t been apart since. I’ve always been an over thinker and I’ve always said to my friends, how do you know if you’re with the one?!? Their reply, you just know Nikki. They were so right!!!!! I was so sure by the time I was 30 I’d be married, possibly children although I’ve never had much patience for kids lol. But things changed and I’m sooooooo glad that wasn’t the case now. I wouldn’t of been here, exactly where I’m meant to be.

When you meet the one and you know they’re the one you feel immediately feel comfortable from don’t you, you laugh till you cry, you respect each other, you do selfless things for them, you get excited every time you see them, you don’t care who knows how you feel, they become your best friend and you can’t imagine ever being apart from them, you can look at them on a night out and think “that’s my man!” and feel proud, you want them to feel amazing, so you treat them amazing, my bf words! Oh and most importantly for me, I don’t care if he sees me without my make up lol!!

Anyway enough mushy stuff ha ha. New chapters happen all the time, every single day is a new opportunity to re invent yourself. If you aren’t happy, you can change it. For example If you don’t feel you’ve done well sw wise one day, it honestly doesn’t matter, just draw a line and move on. Wake up the next day and make it an amazing one.

For me it’s about making this a lifestyle change. I’ve been in unhappy relationships and I’ve been in happy relationships at that time. You learn from them all and thats the whole point. If you have a bad day you can learn from it. Mistakes are just opportunities to do it right the next time, when it really counts.

I was moving things from 9am after we picked the keys up until about 10pm at night and still have tons to do. I didn’t give in to temptation thing of grabbing a sandwich or a take away. I popped to the shop at 3pm and got bowls of salad, packets of ham, cherry tomatoes, sliced peppers and balsamic finger and made a quick salad on the go. The old me would’ve used moving as an excuse for a take away or huge foot long subway!! We’ve already sorted the lounge and the kitchen and I love them both!!! Bedrooms are next! This could take a while, I’ve got approx five suitcases rammed with clothes and another 8 bin bags full, with everything still on their hangers. My bf has even more stuff!!! I said on my fb status that even if I lived to 100 and wore something different every day I couldn’t wear them all!! I’ve already had two huge clear outs but I think I need to be more ruthless!!!

One of the reasons I’m such a shopperholic is that when I was bigger I hated shopping!! I’d look at my reflection in the changing room mirrors and want to cry. I’d get ready for nights out and just end up wearing something that was baggy and covered my huge bum and love handles!! Nothing could cover up how I felt inside though! When I got in my first pair of size 10 skinny jeans I literally danced around the shop!! They must of thought I was mental, but I didn’t care!!! I’ve been a size 16 and I’ve been a size 8, I tend to be a size 10 as an average. Trust me when I say this. No food or drink has ever ever tasted as good as I felt in those jeans!! Don’t get me wrong, I adore the taste of cakes, chocolate, pizza, wine, beer, in fact there really isn’t anything I don’t like!!!! But those sort of treats or pleasures, as I used to see them, last two seconds! The feeling of liking yourself lasts so much longer!!!!

I wouldn’t be sat here now if I didn’t change my lifestyle. I wouldn’t of had the confidence to be single, after being in relationships most of my life, I certainly wouldn’t of gone on that date with my now bf!!! Losing weight can be totally life changing!!! It certainly changed mine, I got a new career I adore, a man I adore and a house I adore. Make the rest of your life the best of your life guys!!! You only get one life. Mwah

Happy Fopping xxxx